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Adoption loss grief support, education, advocacy and community for parents who’ve lost children to adoption.

Our Mission

Concerned United Birthparents (CUB) provides support for all family members separated by adoption; resources to help prevent unnecessary family separations; education about the life-long impact on all who are affected by adoption; and advocates for fair and ethical adoption laws, policies, and practices.

Since 1976.

Concerned United Birthparents (CUB) is the first and only national organization founded and funded entirely by parents of adoption loss. We serve all those touched by adoption. Although our focus is on parents of adoption loss as we, along with adopted persons, are marginalized voices in the institution, we welcome everyone including adoptive parents and professionals serving our community. We find that we all have much to learn from each other and that sharing our wisdom and experiences benefits all of us.

Each year, CUB hosts a healing retreat for all members of the adoption triad, and all who are interested in learning more about the adoption experience. We usually meet by the shore so there is beauty and space for reflection and rest in between our sessions. You wont find the schedule packed with too many choices. We focus on a core program so we can make the most of our annual time in person together.

The Truth About Adoption

Adoption is a Billion Dollar Industry

For every 1 child given up for adoption, there are 36 families waiting to adopt. Many vulnerable mothers are coerced into giving up their babies to meet the demand. Adoption agencies promote adoption to sustain their profitable business.

Adoption is Trauma

Infants separated from their mothers at birth experience trauma. They long for their mother, the only connection the baby had prior to birth.

1 in 4 adoptees suffer from thoughts of suicide.

Adoption Can Cause Lifelong Grief

Losing a baby to adoption is a painful experience that leads to lifelong grief that is often not recognized by society. Many birth mothers suffer in silence and are told to “move on” after they’ve lost their child, however the grieving never stops.

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Monthly Support Group on Zoom

Monthly Writing Group on Zoom

Online Forum

Attend a CUB In-Person Support Group

Boston, MA
Lakeland, FL
Los Angeles, CA
San Diego, CA
Minneapolis–St. Paul, MN

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$45

Membership - 1 year

CUB has always been an all-volunteer organization. Members help keep us going, providing crucial support, education and advocacy.

Included with your annual membership you also receive:

Discounted Retreat Registration: Our annual retreat is what CUB is known for, bringing parents who’ve suffered from adoption loss together for connection, healing and community. Members receive a discounted rate.
Access to Support Forums/Groups: We have a monthly online support group that meets via Zoom, an online forum, as well as in person support groups in many areas.
Monthly Writing Group: Writing has long proved cathartic. Join other birth parents in our monthly writing group. (No writing experience is required or needed to participate.)
Support Our Legacy: We are the only organization founded by and for parents of adoption loss and not affiliated with or supported by entities that profit from adoption.

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